As we wind towards the end of February, with love still on our minds, I wanted to share with you an interview I recently conducted with Shari Sears, author of For My Beloved Husband: A Journal (Beloved Journal)
and the entire Beloved Journal series. I love these journals for the emphasis they place on family communications and memorializing our relationships.
I'm pleased to share the following conversation with Shari Sears.
How do your journals differ from others on the market?
Thank you for your interest in our Beloved Journals. This is really a kind of new concept in journaling and an idea that we hope will capture the attention of people as they realize its true treasure and impact on their marriage. Romantic love, when it is expressed, has the power to ignite passion in a way few other things can.
Most journals on the market were created for a generic purpose. In other words, choose an appealing cover and use the journal for whatever purpose you would like. Our Beloved Journals have a very specific purpose and everything in their design was created for this purpose……keeping romance alive through written expressions of love. The look and feel of the journals is rich and romantic; they are filled with quotes and Scripture verses on love and devotion to help inspire couples to express from their heart. They really must be seen to be appreciated. We want these to be a treasure, something you keep forever and even pass on to the next generation as a testimony of your love and devotion.
How did you come up with the idea of the Beloved Journals?
The idea for the journals came in a flash of inspiration as I was looking at a stack of cards on top of my husband’s dresser. Because these cards contained written messages, they became difficult for him to discard. Can anyone else relate to this?? After seeing the cards sitting there time and time again, and not being sure even how long they had been sitting there, the thought suddenly occurred to me that it would be great to have all those messages written in one journal, versus having a stack of cards that you don’t know what to do with. If all those messages were written in a journal, several things would happen. First, every time you write a message, you have the opportunity to read past messages…and so does your spouse. The journal then becomes interactive between you as it is written in and read over and over again. The messages remain fresh. This is helping to reinforce your relationship. Another wonderful benefit is that you are beginning to tell the story of your love. As I have read messages my husband wrote to me in cards through the years, it brings back memories of things we were going through that I had forgotten about. This is a priceless treasure and also helps to cement your marriage as you see the various stages of life in marriage, how you survived many of life’s challenges. It encourages us to keep going knowing that we have endured challenges in the past and survived! From a practical standpoint, you eliminate the storage issue of years’ worth of cards that usually end up in a storage bin under a bed, in a closet, or in my case….the back of the sock drawer(!) where they are rarely seen…much less read and doing something positive for your relationship.
In the day and age of technology, writing seems to be a lost art. How can Beloved Journals help bring families together?
Because we live in a technological world, the personal touch of much of our communication is lost. This is a pity as there is something beautiful about the handwritten message. Not only is each person’s handwriting unique, this uniqueness is a way of identifying the writer of the message. Think of people who specialize in handwriting analysis; there is much deep in our personality that is expressed just by the way our handwriting looks! But more importantly, writing gives us the opportunity to express something – usually deeper – that we might not say with spoken words. Certainly in our fast paced lives, we are not always taking the time to get to those deeper parts of ourselves. However, when we take the time to sit down and write, we also take the time to think about what we want to express, which helps us to give more of our intimate selves. The combination of our unique thoughts, style of expression, and personal handwriting just has an unbeatable and irresistible charm that an e-mail or text message cannot duplicate. Because these notes can be read over and over again, the words are reinforced in our hearts and our relationship is strengthened each time we read them. This, in itself, helps to strengthen our relationship even more than words that are spoken and perhaps forgotten….in other words, our voice is preserved through our writing. This again, is a priceless treasure.
Why take time to write one another when we can simply call, text or even email?
Hopefully you can see the value of taking the time to write your feelings to your ‘beloved’ even though our world is saturated with cell phone calls, text messages and e-mails. Any of these mediums carries the chance that your message will be ‘lost’ in cyberspace….or worse, accidentally deleted and for sure lost forever! Even if you do choose cyber options to express your love, consider opting for that good old-fashioned handwritten note from time to time….you’ll have a hard time beating the charm of it with anything else!
What type of feedback have you received from families who have used these journals?
Our journals are brand new and the concept is unique so we are definitely looking for feedback from people who put them to use. As we talked to friends and family about this concept, there was much excitement and encouragement to proceed. Everyone looked forward to having them available. We think they look gorgeous, romantic and elegant. We do have plans to expand the line of Beloved Journals with some additional ideas and we hope to be able to bring them to market. We want people to see that this is an investment you make in your relationship—and perhaps the best gift you’ll ever give each other!!
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